How To: Gender Neutral Posing
One thing that makes me a different kind of photographer is that I value my client’s comfort in a way that most don’t think about. We as humans, are much more than what we see on the outside, and this is WHY Safe Space Photo was created. For the folx that want to feel seen, those beautifully unconventional humans that deserve stunning images of where they’re at in life. How is this implemented in the experience?
1. Pronouns Matter
Know that one saying?
“Don’t ASSume things cause it' makes you an ass?”
Yeah, that applies here!
It’s such a small thing, but it means the world by taking the time to ask for pronouns shows you care. That’s why it’s a required field of my contact form. It lets potential clients know they’ve chosen a photographer who values their identity from the start. And hey, if you ever slip up, cause it will/can happen, just acknowledge it, apologize sincerely, and move forward. Building trust starts with these thoughtful moments, and they make all the difference in creating a welcoming space for everyone.
2. Creative Prompts for Authentic Moments
Activity-based prompts bring out natural, genuine reactions and make sessions more fun. Rather than telling someone to vulnerably stand in front of the camera with nothing to focus on, ask them to swing their arm as if they were walking. These small movements spark creativity and allow folx to interpret it for themselves. Something as simple as asking, “Can you walk toward me this way?” removes gendered expectations and encourages freedom of expression. Remember, simple ideas often create the most meaningful moments, truly sometimes less really is more.
3. Traditional Gender Roles are Dead Babe
Learn to take the lead on this one
Let’s leave those outdated “guy/girl roles” behind, trust me your clients will thank you. LGBTQ+ couples are tired of the old lame ass question, “Who’s the guy and who’s the girl?” Don’t be that person. Instead, let your clients lead the way on what their comfortable with and what they aren’t. While things like height instead of gender may work in some situations, it may not work in all. I see you short kings! While giving direction, keep language neutral, like “one person stand here, the other look this way.” Even if there’s a mix of masculine and feminine presentations, always ask what feels comfortable for them. Trust and collaboration will create the best results!
4. Transparency = Open Communication
I am open and honest with clients because builds trust and ensures we are vibing the whole time. Taking the time to discuss what they want, what doesn’t work for them, it transforms the entire experience. Keep in mind, folx hire photographers for a reason. If something doesn’t feel right, they may look elsewhere for their next shoot, which is valid. The photographer’s role to listen and collaborate, making the client feel heard and respected every step of the way.
Last Pro Tip: MOOD BOARDS
Bring on the mood boards! Gather ideas for colors pallets, locations, and different poses. My moodboards are sent about a week before the session and it has a variety of options that folx can chose from. If something doesn’t fit, I’ll adjust until it feels right. Flexibility and pivoting is key to finding what works!
